tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post829197613354316161..comments2024-01-10T01:34:46.891-08:00Comments on Four Flights of Fancy: Thoughts of the Week - Mourning For An Old LifeFour Flightshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10000752220758742399noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-8532254885629305422011-07-10T22:03:51.932-07:002011-07-10T22:03:51.932-07:00a family member told me that she doesn't talk ...a family member told me that she doesn't talk to moms that went back to work because she gets to stay home. it totally urked me because i will have to go back to work for a few years most likely. it is just our life. but i think as women we need to stick together and not draw lines that don't need to be there.<br /><br />popping in to say hello to the other sugar babies! yeah blog sugar!<br /><br />i'm hosting a <a href="http://www.burlapandbasil.com/2011/07/july-giftaway.html" rel="nofollow">july giftaway</a> - anthropologie pillow and some goodies! i hope you'll enter!Christi https://www.blogger.com/profile/10119026001651024221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-63504179544857820112011-07-08T22:51:32.035-07:002011-07-08T22:51:32.035-07:00I JUST had this same discussion with my good frien...I JUST had this same discussion with my good friend. I think it is not only normal but HEALTHY to admit that we mourn our old lives...you deserve to! It doesnt make you any less of a great mom...it just makes you honest. And lets be real if you dont help get to that honest and real state than your fooling yourself and everyone around you. I LOVE being a stay at home mom...but I have to be honest with myself and mourn my past life as well...I learned to say GOOD BYE to the old and HELLO to the new AND (important AND) look forward to the NEW and IMPROVED future life. I actually am grateful that amoungst all your FABULOUS blog posts I find this one that I am sure many mommies can relate with! :) God Bless...have a Great WeekendMariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11245373051941268956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-5899666318759916102011-07-08T17:37:16.667-07:002011-07-08T17:37:16.667-07:00Mourning a past time of your life that you loved i...Mourning a past time of your life that you loved is healthy, not whiney or a downer. You're choosing to recognize that there were good things you sacrificed for the sake of something else. Mourning keeps us from being resentful, because it reminds us that we made a choice, and it is with our own WILL that we continue to walk each day in the other direction. Proud of you for your vulnerability on how hard those steps can be. And impressed by your determination to keep taking them. ;)Leslie @ top of the pagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10003880675646742286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-81728606521607014072011-07-08T17:14:06.982-07:002011-07-08T17:14:06.982-07:00I rather unconventionally quit my 9-5 career befor...I rather unconventionally quit my 9-5 career before starting a family, and can definitely relate to feeling a sense of loss. I hated my job, but I loved having my own income, and the routine, and the outside connections. Being home, while gratifying in so many ways, has been a challenge for the above reasons, and I spent the first several years hosting arguments in my head for and against it. That said, I lament the fact that home has gotten so far removed from work (something that didn't used to be), and I hope that we can move back to thriving and rewarding enterprise that is rooted at home.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts! <br /><br />Warmly,<br />Stephanie from <a href="http://www.makehomemakesense.com" rel="nofollow">Make Home Make Sense</a>Stephanie Hillberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09254064946232572083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-16507453218070417362011-07-08T16:07:47.706-07:002011-07-08T16:07:47.706-07:00I can relate completely! I went back to work after...I can relate completely! I went back to work after having my first daughter, and I hated every minute of it. I was just not cut out for trying to have a full-time job on top of being a mother. A month before I had my second daughter, I quit my job because I knew I wouldn't be able to take being away from two kids all day, nevermind one, plus two kids constantly getting sick, etc. The way I feel is, I tried it, I hated it, and now I know that I need to be a stay-at-home mom. I've been home with my kids for a year and a half now, and even though I really wanted it, it was still hard to leave my co-workers and it still required a lot of adjustment.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13453449160923172430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-64869361165611489002011-07-08T12:56:28.742-07:002011-07-08T12:56:28.742-07:00I always appreciate your honesty and insight! Espe...I always appreciate your honesty and insight! Especially on the career side! I think your feelings are SO valid and relatable. I am sure you will be the first person I come to when I have to make that same decision :)Mandy @ In the Fashion Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10401700586249090420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-29910253076012232112011-07-08T12:30:57.997-07:002011-07-08T12:30:57.997-07:00how exciting! enjoy your girl trip!
press on. be...how exciting! enjoy your girl trip! <br /><br />press on. be encouraged. seek the lord and do what is best for your family. so sorry if you've encountered haters;)<br /><br />loveyagrey rose (they/them)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14276803823247907626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-61386722263205960762011-07-08T12:00:27.926-07:002011-07-08T12:00:27.926-07:00Oh Andrea! I haven't visited in a long time, ...Oh Andrea! I haven't visited in a long time, but am so happy I popped over and caught this post. I can soooo relate. I know we had a few conversations about our attempts to get back to our careers - post children. I am glad I did try to go back though, because I always wondered.... and now I am much more at peace with my choice to stay home. Glad you are settling in and yes, I tell people all the time that after you have a baby, you need to mourn your old self... because it really is like starting over. At least for me it was. Hang in there, my friend, and enjoy your trip. Don't melt! ;D HUGSBrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02389035252779800439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-30639353241738192492011-07-08T09:32:44.729-07:002011-07-08T09:32:44.729-07:00It's just like everything we have talked in th...It's just like everything we have talked in the past about....<br />People have a need to criticize and tear down because they themselves yearn for affirmation and a sense of "I'm doing the right thing."<br />If you can remember that undo criticism almost always comes from a place of pain, it will make it easier to ignore.<br /><br />Your feelings are so normal. I have days where I really miss working. I loved that job.<br />Missing it will never negate from the love you have for your kids.<br />Saying goodbye to a job doesn't mean forgetting it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-42033608515718896862011-07-08T09:13:49.631-07:002011-07-08T09:13:49.631-07:00Wow! I just had this conversation with my husband...Wow! I just had this conversation with my husband yesterday! He said I'd seemed down lately and when I explained that I didn't WANT to go back to work, but I missed the working me, he just couldn't get it. He kept saying, "Well, let's just put them in day care if you want to go back. It's fine." I love being home, I wouldn't change it but I do miss my career too. <br /><br /><br />As for us being unsupportive of each others choices - I've never understood it either. We each make the decisions that are best for us and our family. Life is hard enough. Why make it harder?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-25787730354691735812011-07-08T08:52:30.593-07:002011-07-08T08:52:30.593-07:00I can relate!! There just always seems to be two ...I can relate!! There just always seems to be two camps. . .working mom and stay at home mom. It took me a long time before I could step back from the accolades that came with my job. I still work part time, so I kind of have one foot in each pool and even that is hard. There's no right way, I don't think--people have to do what they have to do for their families sake. I don't think your post is a downer--it speaks volumes of truth...have a great weekend!!Janenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00005650115687302774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-17498442018067293262011-07-08T08:37:59.683-07:002011-07-08T08:37:59.683-07:00It's weird when our sense of importance and wo...It's weird when our sense of importance and worth comes from our titles and benefit packages, huh? I know that someday I won't miss working at all, but I'm sure I will miss the respect that comes from the position I've earned.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1911776287527151601.post-63812156926581225132011-07-08T08:29:50.960-07:002011-07-08T08:29:50.960-07:00Nice post! Cool blog too!
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